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How do We Find Faerie? And How do we Deal with Being an Elf or Otherkin while Living in the Mundane World?

October 15, 2019
“. . . Faerie is all around us, living in potential everywhere and in nearly everyone, although as the sorcerers say: it takes an incredible feat of perception to see it.. . . every time you manifest as an elf or elfae other, you step closer to Faerie and Elfin, step into another dimension that is more Elfin in nature, on a path that leads step-by-step to the Land of our Dreams and Bright Imaginings. . . And as we elven know, this world we live in and that the mundane folk live in is Faerie. That’s important to understand! This is Faerie, it is just that most people don’t want to see that fact even when it is right before their noses. . . . We are, the all of us, sentient awareness creating forms out of stardust and starlight, energy given form by consciousness.”


How do we find Faerie?

     Many folks believe that Faerie exists as a parallel dimension to this one, and that is true. It does and yet, the way to Faerie isn’t by stepping from this dimension into that one, at least not directly, as though you were stepping through a door or threshold into an alternate world, but involves seeing Faerie manifest here and doing one’s best to manifest it in one’s own being and life. For Faerie is all around us, living in potential everywhere and in nearly everyone, although as the sorcerers say: it takes an incredible feat of perception to see it.

     And yet, it is not that you can’t step directly from this world to that. You can. However, in order to do that you must leave your current body behind and most people are rather loathe to do that and we are as well. One might think that we are saying that one can commit suicide and step into Faerie, but alas, that is not the case. Suicide has the curious effect of binding one to the world one is attempting to escape from. In committing suicide, one is just linking thems’elves more thoroughly to the world they are currently in. Committing suicide to escape this world is like getting yours’elf thrown into solitary confinement in order to escape from jail. You can escape, but only by altering your perception and changing the world around you in your own experience of that world.

     For the way to Faerie is not out but in. It is in changing our consciousness, becoming more elf, fae and other aware, that we subtly alter our bodies from the inside out and make the transition from this dimension to that possible. But this is not in a single step, although we’ve heard that instant enlightenment is possible (from those who claim but perhaps really haven’t achieved it), but by a series of steps and continuing effort to develop and improve ones’elf as an elfae being.

     This is rather like lifting weights really. One doesn’t suddenly go from bench pressing 50 lbs. to bench pressing 200 lbs. in a day. It takes time and effort and regular workouts to develop one’s strength. In our minds, we can achieve such a feat, but our minds are just one plane of being and in order to step into Faerie, we need to manifest it on all the planes. Not only in our minds, but our hearts and our bodies by living the life Elfin or Faerie, here now.

     Oh, what a paradox this is. A puzzle set for elves and elfae by elves and elfae. A riddle created by the ancients and the Divine Magic itself. You can’t enter Elfin without being elfin, fae or other and in being elfin, fae and other you automatically begin to create Elfin all around you. And every time you do this, every time you manifest as an elf or elfae other, you step closer to Faerie and Elfin, step into another dimension that is more Elfin in nature, on a path that leads step-by-step to the Land of our Dreams and Bright Imaginings.

     In living the life elfin, you transform. You alter your consciousness, the way you interact with the world, your perception and world view and those things transform your body or bodies really, your astral body, your mental body, your physical body and your body of light, also called your energetic body, which is your true body. We are, the all of us, sentient awareness creating forms out of stardust and starlight, energy given form by consciousness.

     It is not, however, just a matter of living your life as an elf, fae or other, although that can be very helpful and important. It is not entirely about dressing as the elves in the Lord of the Rings do, or however you perceive elven fashion to be. Or about surrounding yours’elf with elfin and fae artifacts, or wearing pointed ears or faerie or dragon wings or wolf fur or whatever evokes your inner nature for you. It is about seeing and perceiving the world around you in its true nature.

     For, beloved, Faerie is all around us. While most people look around and see Men and Women, we see elves, faeries, pixies, goblins (lots of goblins), grimlins, orcs, ogres, brownies, gnomes and all manner of Faerie being. We look beyond the glamour of the world to the reality that lives within it. Just as we see elfin in our own s’elves, we perceive the manifestation of Faerie life nearly everywhere. And yes, we also see men and women, but far less of them than one might suppose.

     And in seeing Faerie and in living the life Elfin, we are stepping ever closer to the dimensions where Elfin flourishes, beauty abounds and healing and magic are evidently manifest. Tolkien said that Faerie was a perilous realm, and isn’t this a perilous realm? Look about you, there are elf, fae and others everywhere, pretending to be other than they are, but we’re not fooled.

“If you stay in Faerie long,
you’re bound to hear the ancient song,
and hearing it you’ll joyous know
the magic that the fae do show
and seeing it your eyes
will clear as the Faerie Rade draws near,
and close to it you will embrace
your kindred of the Eldar Race.”
—The Silver Elves

How do we deal with being an Elf or Otherkin
while living in the mundane world?

It can be frustrating at times to live among mundane folk. They tend often to assume their point of view is the only true and right way to see things and even though they may disagree from one culture to another or one religion to another, or one race to another, or one gender to another about what the true and right way is, they still are of the opinion that they know it all. Most of the conflicts they have among themselves, of which there are many, come from these disagreements about the actual nature of the world and the right way to hold your spoon or fork, or what clothes one should wear at what time of year or whatever they happen to decide is proper and true at any particular time. These picayune requirements are all nonsense to the elfin but it is important to understand what is behind all this peer pressure toward conformity and the quest to keep everything as mundane and normal as possible.

     The world can be a dangerous place. As we have said above, Tolkien called Faerie the Perilous Realm, and surely it is. And as we elven know, this world we live in and that the mundane folk live in is Faerie. That’s important to understand! This is Faerie, it is just that most people don’t want to see that fact even when it is right before their noses. For Faerie is like a dream world where you may have very amazing, fantastic and magical dreams but you could also have terrible and recurring nightmares. They’ve given us a few. Still most dreams people have are fairly mundane dreams although somewhat puzzling at times.

     The Normal folk, as they generally call themselves, attempt to bring some order to the world, to Faerie, by organizing it along some very strict lines of social behavior and activity. They are really seeking to be safe, to create peace and harmony in their own way. They think that if they just all look alike and are walking in line together that the boogie man won’t get them. It is just that their way of achieving safety and security is the way of peer pressure and dominance, social ridicule and ostracization and it leads to innumerable conflicts both within their societies and between them individually.

       Behind all this is the dark magic of the wicked sorcerers who seek to control them for their own profit and satisfaction and so riddled throughout their societies is a hierarchical jockeying for position and power on nearly every level and, of course, among the dark sorcerers themselves. In truth, being compelled to wearing a suit and tie for work, instead of whatever you would choose to wear, is the same as saluting, touching your forelock, bowing down, kneeing and other acts of submission to arbitrary authority.

     Ever notice in television shows and movies that the villains most often have their captives knell down before they kill them? This is not simply about control of danger, but of forcing submission and power over others. The Normal folk live in constant but often unacknowledged fear, but then Faerie can be a dangerous place. And we know this is so, and we understand what motivates these folks to seek safety in numbers and to ridicule all who don’t conform because inwardly they are afraid that a lack of conformity will bring danger and ruin into their lives. The sheep who strays is dinner for the wolves, they tell themselves and there is truth in this. It takes courage to be an elf or other.

     Of course, their attempts at creating uniform (literally) societies are doomed to failure and are no more effective really than many of the things they deem to be unscientific and superstitious. And for people who are ever evoking science as an excuse for mocking and deriding our claims to be otherkin, they are really the most unscientific and science hating lot. We elfin, elfae, faeries and others tend to be far more scientific in our approach to things than they, really, although we embrace the mythological, imaginal and fantastic elements of our being with equal fervor. We don’t pretend to be scientific while basing nearly everything important on faith. We have faith in science and magic. And really for us, science is just another form of magic; and magic, certainly, has its scientific side.

     So how do we deal with living among the mundane folk? Cautiously at times, when they get in their dangerous moods, when they are truly afraid and paranoid, which for some of them is nearly all the time. Camouflaging ours’elves from them most of the time, but in a camouflage that secretly tells our kindred who we are. Openly at times, being out and ours’elves when we think they can handle it and encouraging them to do the same even though they may seek to ridicule us for doing so. However, that seldom turns out well for them for logic and reason aren’t really their strong suits, even though they fool themselves into thinking so and we can have deadly tongues if we so choose and can delight in twisting and tangling their minds into elf knots that they find nearly impossible to unravel and most often flee from us screaming.

     But usually, we are just kind to them, smiling at them, loving them and soothing their fears, although they cling to their fears like a security blanket. Kind in ways that baffle them and keep them guessing and we invite them, in simple ways, to play along with us, kick off their shoes for just a moment or two and join in the dance. It’s fine. It’s safe and quite healing. We won’t tell anyone.

The Silver Elves

“The more we manifest as elves expressing Elfin into the world, the stronger Elfin becomes; the stronger Elfin becomes the more potent we become as elves in a never-ending spiral of mutual appreciation, encouragement and empowerment.”
—The Silver Elves

And please, when you come to our website please enjoy reading sample pages and reader’s reviews of all our 45+ books (published prior to March 2019) on magic and enchantment, elven lifestyle, elven poetry, elven short stories, an elven novel, on elven philosophy and the Elven Way at: Also, our newest Silver Elves books (beginning March 2019) may be found on this blog site at

And you can find all our the Silver Elves books to purchase on The Elven Way on Amazon here:
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If you enjoyed the article above on Finding Faerie, you will surely also enjoy reading:

How Do You Tell Your Family or Friends that You’re an Elfae Without Them Getting Upset?
What Say the Elves About Living in the World of the Unawakened? And How Does an Elf Find Friends?
Where Do You Find Kindred Fae?

The Silver Elves say: “While our bodies may grow old, our spirits remain eternal.”


Faerie Unfolding: The Cosmic Expression of the Divine Magic is an advanced book of elven philosophy concerning The Silver Elves’ views on the nature of the Divine and its expression and manifestation into the world as seen from those cultures that are most connected to and historically expressive of Elven Culture. It is a further development from some of our other books on Elven Philosophy including: Through the Mists of Faerie; A Magical Guide to the Wisdom Teachings of the Ancient Elven;   The Elven Way: The Magical Path of the Shining Ones; and   Liber Aelph: Words of Guidance from the Silver Elves to Our magical Children and opens the adept elfin enchanter to new understandings of the Unfolding of Faerie and


its magic  into the world and our part, as elfin beings, in its expression. The Silver Elves illuminate this with a new way of understanding traditional lore and mythology, as well as modern stories of our faerie peoples. Come view a sample of Chapter 1 and read the reviews of Faerie Unfolding: The Cosmic Expression of the Divine Magic on our website here.

Ver nesidas mellun vari te (In the language of the Silver Elves, Arvyndase, “In shimmering starlight ever be”)


Now A Gift For You!!!!!
What Kind of Elf or Otherkin Are You?
And What is Your Elfae or Otherkin Tribe?

For years various kindred have asked us, the Silver Elves, to help them figure this out. You probably know if you are an elf, faerie, or otherkin but now we’ve created a questionnaire in order to help us and you create a narrative together about your specific people and your clan, their personal characteristics, magic, relationship to Nature, and interests. This is our gift to you (free), which we think will be a bit of fun for both of us. Give us five minutes of your time and we will give you a half hour to forty minutes of ours and send you your unique magical narrative. Simply follow this link and the directions on the page:

And for further reading on your Elven, Faerie, Otherkin tribe:

otherkinstar_coverelftribesELF TRIBES: The Silver Elves’ Guide for Finding Your Magical Kind and Kin and  FAERIE, FAE AND OTHERKIN TRIBES: The Silver Elves’ Guide for Finding Your Magical Kind and Kin. Please click on the titles listed above to go to the pages on this blog that are dedicated to each book, where you can read more about them, view excerpts of sample magical narratives and also the table of contents from both books. Elf Tribes contains 150+ narratives of elven tribes, and Faerie, Fae and Otherkin Tribes contains another 150+ narratives of faerie and otherkin tribes. Be sure and click on the title links and read a few of these magical narratives. Perhaps, you will find your people as you read through these two books, or kindred quite like them. At any rate, you can always do the survey yours’elf, or do it again if you feel you have come to a greater understanding of yours’elf and our peoples in the meantime (or gentle-time as we elves often say).

“We are born of starlight woven into magic.”

—The Silver Elves


And we invite you to come join us on Facebook in some of our Elven groups where you will find our elven-faerie-fae community interacting and sharing the Elven Way:

The Magical Books of the Silver Elves
where we have discussions about our books as well as about Elven
and Otherkin philosophy and lifestyle.

Elf Witches of the Mystic Moon

Elven Life and Magic

Elvish Magical Chat

The Faerie Circle

The Elven Way and Friends 

United Otherkin Alliance:
where elves, faeries, dragons, kitsune, gnomes, hobbits, merkin, pixies, brownies, nymphs, driads, niaids, valkyrie, vampires, devas, and all manner of Faerie Folk gather!


As we elves often say, “Our beauty often comes from our uniqueness.” If you would like further guidance on making the magic of Faerie real in your own life, we suggest reading  Living the Personal Myth, a unique narrative about a psychological study of the magic of living one’s personal myth, in effect, making one’s dream and vision of one’s self come true by living it. It is a personal guide to becoming one’s true s’elf as one inwardly knows one’s s’elf to be. This book is a potent guide to realizing one’s genuine, and potentially powerful, magical and fantastic nature.

Living the Personal Myth:
Making the Magic of Faerie Real in One’s Own Life

by The Silver Elves

To Elfin Find

Free we are, to Elfin find
Whatever kin, of any kind
Together do we travel
The mysteries unravel.

Secrets deep, and secrets old
Will now the mysteries unfold
Whisper gently to the bold
From ages long ago untold.

From simple self to Shining One
All has ever yet begun
Such treasures can be won
Silver Moon and golden Sun.

With far memories of an ancient way
Where Elfae sing and Dragons play
And twirling Faeries laugh about
The glen where flowers ever sprout.

Otherworld is like they say
Only one step in mind away
All creatures fey and fair
Call us out to join them there.

And appreciation do we show
To near and far so all can know
Because gratitude knows no bounds
When our True Heart is truly found.

And when the hearth we have found
Joyous tales do abound
Of travels wide and far
Guided by an Elfin star.

Whose light does ever shine within
The secret of our heart
Where ‘er we go or ‘er we’ve been
You’ve been there from the start.

—written together by Hennie van Geel, Sara Isayama (Ileådryn), Zardoa‎, and Silver Flame (members of the Facebook group “Magical Books of the Silver Elves”)


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“We elves are always mystified by other people’s inability to reason. There are things we just cannot discuss with them for they will only get angry and upset if we do so. To these others, the Universe is like a painting that is already completed and should never be touched. To the elves, the Universe is an artwork in progress and we are still adding paint to the canvas.”
—The Silver Elves

For further reading on living the life Elfin and the Elven Way:

THE MAGICAL REALMS OF ELFIN: Answers to Questions About Being an Elf and Following the Elven Path by The Silver Elves contains questions and answers about being elven that many people whmagicalRealms2o are exploring the Elven Way have posed to The Silver Elves throughout the 40 + years that they have been living and sharing the Elven Way. If you need a convenient, yet thorough and easy-to-read, resource to explore your questions about who the modern elves are and about the Elven Way or elven spiritual path — past, present and future — then we recommend this book. If you are curious about elves and want to learn more about modern elves and the Elven Path, then you will surely find this book to contain many of your questions answered and it will be a great comfort and help in finding your way home to the Magical Realms of Elfin.

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An Elven Spell for Finding your true s’elf:

“Increasingly, I come to know
Just who I am the truth to show.”

(In Arvyndase, the magical language of the Silver Elves)
“Memarnla, El koso va ken
Oda jae El da tae lodver vah teke.”

Me – mare-n – lah, Eel co – so vah keen
Oh – dah jay Eel dah tay load – veer vah tea – key.



 Elven Blessings, Dear Kindred!





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