Archive for the ‘elven lifestyle’ Category

What Do Elves Think of Psychiatry, Psychology and Modern Therapists?

August 2, 2018
psychebookinsidegrensmall
“Oddly, the inner self is not generally viewed as real in this mundane world, similar to and perhaps even more profoundly than how the world of mankind has denied the existence of elves. The importance of developing the self and even its existence at all, is absent in most modern forms of psychological therapies. And it is certain that until mankind views their own inner Nature or self as real and important to nurture, they will not only feel disharmony and psychological discomforts but also will continue to deny the existence of elves who experience both inner s’elf and outer Nature as one. We elves understand that people can be healed of psychological discomforts by viewing the inner self as real. And then once the self is fully nourished and developed, the person will feel balanced and instinctually make healthy decisions.”

First, let us say, we are psychologists, if you mean this word in its literal sense, as those who study the psyché. Shamanism, and really sorcery, are forms of and ancestors to modern psychology. In fact, magic and the magical arts are the sources of nearly every study in the world including medicine, botany, theatre, religion and much else (see Frazer The Golden Bough). In fact, these elves have Masters degrees in Psychology, so when we say we are students of psychology and of the psyché, we are being quite literal about that. The mind and the feelings, which are greatly connected to the unconscious, are fascinating to us.

There is an idea in popular magical lore that if you know a person’s true name you will have power over them. What this really means from an elven point of view, is that if you truly understood a person, understood them from their own point of view, then you would have the power to influence them (see I Ching #61 Inner Truth) and thus affect their thoughts and behavior. This is also the common idea of psyching someone out. Although, for the elves, such influence is used generally to move individuals toward greater inner and outer harmony.

Professional psychologists and psychiatrists are a different matter. Unfortunately, these days, where nearly everything including one’s attitude and point of view are seen as a result of the biochemistry of the brain and body, psychiatrists (we were told by an elf brother who is one and works for a major hospital chain) have become mostly script writers for pharmaceuticals. Sort of diagnostic pharmacists. Of course, this is the Kali Yuga, and thus it is only natural at this juncture in the evolutionary development of humanity that the world is viewed as being a primarily material event.

Even those therapists who can’t (because they don’t have a doctorate in medicine) or don’t prescribe drugs, are generally only partially, or even marginally effective. Years ago, there was a research study that had two groups, a test group of people in therapy and a control group of people who didn’t go to therapy. They were studied over a period of time and it was discovered at the end of this period that of those who were in therapy about a third got better, a third got worse and a third stayed the same. Interestingly, in the control group of those who didn’t go to therapy, the results were exactly the same, a third got better, a third worse, and a third stayed the same. One might think that the researchers would conclude, as many people do in modern society, that psychology and therapy is essentially useless. But instead they concluded that therapy was only as good as the therapist. Which probably could also be said of auto-mechanics, doctors, dentists and even actors and directors.

The great minds of psychology and psychiatry, such as Freud, Jung, Maslow, Rogers, etc. were very effective as therapists, because they put their heart and their souls (as well as their minds) into their relationships with their patients. However, many therapists today are simply following a formula that they’ve been taught for every patient and this is barely effective. And the fact is (and these elves know it from personal interaction, for we know a number of psychologists), they can be just as screwed up in their personal life as those they seek to treat. But then, you don’t expect your dentist to do his own root canals, so that is not totally unreasonable, although there is some expectation that psychologists should be somewhat saner than most folks. So, while these elves respect modern psychology and psychologists, we don’t think that it is generally a very effective method at this point for helping people. But then, in its modern manifestation as a science, psychology is a very young discipline and needs time to evolve.

But the main thing that we question about many modern forms of therapy, is the hierarchical aspect of the therapist-patient relationship. In our experience, it is a personal and caring relationship that is most potent in enabling people to change. And most often, it is in our personal lives of love and romance that most encourages people to strive to really improve thems’elves. Carl Rogers, in the 1940s and 50s, was certainly on the right track with his Person-Centered Therapy that was an empathic and non-authoritative approach, empowering and motivating people in the therapeutic process. And of course we are not saying that all forms of modern psychological therapies are without this important aspect of the caring relationship, but those that mostly concentrate on dispensing pharmaceuticals and offer little else, certainly lack this important ingredient of care that is so necessary for any real change in the person’s condition.

Dr. Timothy Leary, a great modern psychologist, was of the opinion (shared by ancient shamans) that people were neurologically templated to believe and behave in certain ways and simply unable to make any real change unless the synaptic links in their brain were released and re-wired, so to speak, using a variety of shamanic techniques and technologies. This aligns itself with the same biochemical theories mentioned earlier, only the pharmaceutics prescribed would be different and there are other life changing and sometimes life-threatening events that can also produce the same effect. Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (PTSD) is essentially a result of such rewiring of the brain.

But there are other techniques, such as one might use on a Vision Quest, like drumming, dancing, chanting and so forth that can also produce this effect of rewiring the brain in a more positive fashion. Often this is what is happening when one encounters a highly spiritual person and experiences an epiphany or revelation. Frequently, when one awakens to their elfin, faerie or otherkin s’elf, it is due to just such an experience. It is a profound spiritual revelation.

Thus, these elves don’t do traditional therapy with people, although Silver Flame has held a license to do so and Zardoa could practice as a psychologist in some states. What we do is relate to our kindred as best we are able and on occasion we offer the Somatic Reflection Process to help unite body and mind (see book What’s Behind Your Belly Button? by Love and Sterling).

We elves see the inner self as real and attempt to assist our kindred to nourish their own inner being and instinctive needs with both caring and acceptance balanced by freedom of expression. Oddly, the inner self is not generally viewed as real in this mundane world, similar to and perhaps even more profoundly than how the world of mankind has denied the existence of elves. The importance of developing the self and even its existence at all, is absent in most modern forms of psychological therapies. And it is certain that until mankind views their own inner Nature or self as real and important to nurture, they will not only feel disharmony and psychological discomforts but also will continue to deny the existence of elves who experience both inner s’elf and outer Nature as one.

We elves understand that people can be healed of psychological discomforts by viewing the inner self as real. And then once the self is fully nourished and developed, the person will feel balanced and instinctually make healthy decisions. Our hope is to help, guide and nurture our elfae kin as we best are able to do so, and to be with them as their loving and affectionate kindred in a world that often seems as though it was designed to drive us all crazy.

Kyela,
The Silver Elves
http://silverelves.angelfire.com

Also, we invite you to check out our new release:

ELVEN PSYCHOLOGY: Understanding the Elfin Psyche and the Evolutionary and Esoteric Purpose of Mental Disorders! Come read all about it, the introduction, and table of contents on the link below ! Readers idea of normal will be forever changed!
http://silverelves.angelfire.com/HAelvenpsychology.html

elvenPsychBookcoverbigELVEN PSYCHOLOGY: Understanding the Elfin Psyche
and the Evolutionary and Esoteric Purpose of Mental Disorders

ELVEN PSYCHOLOGY is written from a unique elven perspective about the present day human condition, which includes an exploration of the psyché of both normal folk and elfae. We elves are elven by spirit, so our entrance into humanity is the addition of a new spiritual race, not a new physical race, and elves have been born in these modern times into all physical races, as well as most cultures and religions throughout the world. In fact, there are many who are following esoteric Ancient Wisdom Traditions, as well as some Tolkienists, who through the process of benevolent evolution, see ‘elf as the new normal’ or majority of humankind in the not so distant future. So, it is important to update many areas of academia that explore, express, and explain human life; psychology being one of these.

Thus this book expands the realms of modern psychology, which has never before included the elves and otherkin population as being real. If one says that they are an elf, most psychologists today will still hold you in suspect of having a delusionary disorder and try to evaluate you further. We explain in Elven Psychology why from a standard psychological point of view that believing you are an elf does not in itself constitute a disorder even in traditional psychology, and then we go much further and explore the disorders and psychological struggles that we observe in our modern society in both normal folk and elves/otherkin, along with the spiritual purposes of disorders and new perspectives for healing.


 

What Kind of Elf or Otherkin Are You?
And What is Your Elfae or Otherkin Tribe?
For years various kindred have asked us, the Silver Elves, to help them figure this out. You probably know if you are an elf, faerie, or otherkin but now we’ve created a questionnaire in order to help us and you create a narrative about your specific people and your clan, their personal characteristics, magic, relationship to Nature, and interests. This is our gift to you (free), which we think will be a bit of fun for both of us. Give us five minutes of your time and we will give you a half hour to forty minutes of ours. Simply follow this link and the directions on that page:
http://silverelves.angelfire.com/HAelfkin.html

We welcome you to come join us on Facebook under Michael J. Love (Zardoa of The SilverElves) and Martha Char Love (SilverFlame of The Silver Elves).

We also invite you to come join us on Facebook in some of our Elven groups where you will find our elven-faerie-fae community interacting and sharing the Elven Way:

The Magical Books of the Silver Elves https://www.facebook.com/groups/539205916250397 where we have discussions about our books as well as about Elven and Otherkin philosophy and lifestyle.

Elf Witches of the Mystic Moon
https://www.facebook.com/groups/806583242768352

Elven Life and Magic
https://www.facebook.com/groups/629491797123886

Elvish Magical Chat
https://www.facebook.com/groups/307775362744491

The Faerie Circle
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1025483294180077

Devayana: Buddhism, Vedic, & Asian Spirituality for Elves and Fae https://www.facebook.com/groups/devayana

The Elven Way and Friends
https://www.facebook.com/groups/165938637423212 

 

United Otherkin Alliance https://www.facebook.com/groups/328253710566869where elves, faeries, dragons, kitsune, gnomes, hobbits, merkin, pixies, brownies, nymphs, driads, niaids, valkyrie, vampires, devas, and all manner of Faerie Folk gather!

 

zardoa_quotes8 copy

 

ElfSongZardoa2

Save

Save

Save

Advertisements

How Do Elves Form Families?

July 2, 2018
silver_ZGarden
“. . . .we have elven grandchildren, nieces, nephews, brothers, sisters, cousins and every other variation of familial relationship. You could describe this as an extended family, and it truly is, but it would be more accurate really to call it our spiritual family, our family of spirit, our elven, elfae family of related kin and kindred. There is no need to be alone in this world, for our spiritual kin are all around us and our elven family may flower with just the opening of one’s heart.”

In a certain sense, we do it the usual way. However, we elves are generally more aware and more attuned with the fact that we are beings of spirit and energy than many other folks and thus we don’t raise our children to be elves but to be their own s’elves however they wish to interpret that for thems’elves in the best, most vibrant and successful fashion they can be. In other words, we don’t offer them dogma and doctrine, we simply love and nurture them, their aspirations and goals, and encourage them to be the best they can be.

Most children in the world embrace whatever their parents raise them to be. In some cases, as in the reality of genetic distinctive racial types, they don’t always have a good deal of choice in that. However, most of what people are, comes from being born in a particular country or area and thus are raised with a particular political view, the religion or lack thereof of the parents and so on.

So we have it that Jewish people tend to raise their children to be Jewish, culturally if not religiously. Moslems raise their children to be Moslem; Christians to be Christian and so forth and every country raises their children to be patriotic citizens and to think that their culture, nation and people are the best in the world. Thus, we take on the religions and politics of our parents, although, there are those, usually just a few, who stray into other realms, depending upon their own evolutionary development and how liberal or fanatical their parents actually were. And with these various inherited enculturations, the children also usually get their parent’s—thus their country’s or religion’s—prejudices, slights, schemes for revenge for wrongs done in the past by some competing group and everything else that has led over the ages to myriad sectarian, religious, political, racial and cultural hate and conflict.

But, as we say, we elves are different in that way. Our genetic children are raised to make decisions about politics and religion and other things according to their own insights about life. Of course, we always hope they will see things rather like we do, but we support them in whatever path they do choose, and we trust that whatever they choose is the best path for them. We will always love and nurture them, whichever way they go, and always encourage them to do what is right and fair for everyone. We are not so interested in them calling thems’elves elves as in being the Good Folk that we know them to be.

And as elves, we also adopt various kin who come to us. Actually, it is more like we adopt each other. Thus we have elven grandchildren, nieces, nephews, brothers, sisters, cousins and every other variation of familial relationship. You could describe this as an extended family, and it truly is, but it would be more accurate really to call it our spiritual family, our family of spirit, our elven, elfae family of related kin and kindred. There is no need to be alone in this world, for our spiritual kin are all around us and our elven family may flower with just the opening of one’s heart.

We are aware that our genetic relationships, as much as we love and value our children are transitory. This is to say that they are our children now, but after we pass from this incarnation, they may very well become our parents or grandparents in another one. In fact, our daughter reminds us so much of one of our own grandmothers, is so much like her in so many ways, that we are fairly certain it is her reborn.

But the same is true of our elven kindred really. They may be coming to us for kinship and guidance in this life but in the next one we will probably be seeking them out to help remind us of the Way. This life is a spiral, after all, and we are rising together toward the light of Elfin, each of us helping our others who in time help us.

Ver nesidas mellun vari te (In shimmering starlight ever be),
The Silver Elves
http://silverelves.angelfire.com
elves

If you enjoyed this blog article about elven family and lifestyle, you will surely also enjoy reading our book Eldafaryn: True Tales of Magic from the Lives of the Silver Elves. Eldafaryn (Elf Haven) contains a series of vignettes from the lives of the Silver Elves describing our lives, our magic, our philosophy, and our unique view of the world.

eldafarynweb copy
Eldafaryn: True Tales of Magic from the Lives of the Silver Elves

path_elfin_Silverelves

What Kind of Elf or Otherkin Are You?
And What is Your Elfae or Otherkin Tribe?
For years various kindred have asked us, the Silver Elves, to help them figure this out. You probably know if you are an elf, faerie, or otherkin but now we’ve created a questionnaire in order to help us and you create a narrative about your specific people and your clan, their personal characteristics, magic, relationship to Nature, and interests. This is our gift to you, which we think will be a bit of fun for both of us. Give us five minutes of your time and we will give you a half hour to forty minutes of ours. Simply follow this link and the directions on that page:
http://silverelves.angelfire.com/HAelfkin.html

elfquote_blg_family2

Also, we invite you to enjoy reading samples of all our 40+ books on magic and enchantment and the Elven Way at: http://silverelves.angelfire.com/HAelfbooks.html

We invite you to view the Table of Contents and an excerpt from one of our newest book, click below to go to The Silver Elves website page for this book:
The Magical Realms of Elfin: Answers to Questions About Being An Elf and Following the Elven Path

magicalRealms2
THE MAGICAL REALMS OF ELFIN: Answers to Questions About Being an Elf and Following the Elven Path contains questions and answers about being elven that many people who are exploring the Elven Way have posed to The Silver Elves throughout the 40 + years that they have been living and sharing the Elven Way. The Silver Elves have put them all in this one book for all those who need a convenient, yet thorough and easy-to-read, resource to explore their questions about who the modern elves are and about the Elven Way or elven spiritual path — past, present and future. If you are curious about elves and want to learn more about modern elves and the Elven Path, then you will surely find this book to contain many of your questions answered and it will be a great comfort and help in finding your way home to the Magical Realms of Elfin.

Zardoa_Quotes1

We invite you to come join us on Facebook in some of our Elven groups where you will find our elven-faerie-fae community interacting and sharing the Elven Way:

The Magical Books of the Silver Elves https://www.facebook.com/groups/539205916250397 where we have discussions about our books as well as about Elven and Otherkin philosophy and lifestyle.

Elf Witches of the Mystic Moon https://www.facebook.com/groups/806583242768352

Elven Life and Magic https://www.facebook.com/groups/629491797123886

Elvish Magical Chat https://www.facebook.com/groups/307775362744491

The Faerie Circle https://www.facebook.com/groups/1025483294180077

The Elven Way and Friendshttps://www.facebook.com/groups/165938637423212 

United Otherkin Alliance https://www.facebook.com/groups/328253710566869 where elves, faeries, dragons, kitsune, gnomes, hobbits, merkin, pixies, brownies, nymphs, driads, niaids, valkyrie, vampires, devas, and all manner of Faerie Folk gather!

Also you are welcome to our other blog site with articles on Elven Lifestyle and the Elven Way. http://thesilverelves.blogspot.com

quote_blg_family3

 

Save

Save

Save

Save

Why Are So Many Modern Elves So Into Fashion?

May 12, 2018

ZandSilverF_elf costumes
“. . . we put on pointed ears and dress in traditional elfin garb and embrace our magical nature whenever we can, doing whatever we can, no matter how superficial it may seem to link us to the realm and folk that we love and of whom we are so beloved. Wearing elven fashion, dressing in elven raiment is an act of magic. It is an announcement of one’s true nature, one’s connection to Elfin and our kindred elves, and every time one does so it radiates a bit of Elfin into the world.”

Fashion is a particularly faerie thing, usually. Faeries love fashion but elves do also and particularly in this age where our very existence is often denied and in which others feel it their right to ridicule our cultural heritage, never even bothering to ask what we mean when we say we are elves, or making any inquiry at all. We elfin are inclined to cling to those things that declare our elvenness to the world. Thus we put on pointed ears and dress in traditional elfin garb and embrace our magical nature whenever we can, doing whatever we can, no matter how superficial it may seem to link us to the realm and folk that we love and of whom we are so beloved. Wearing elven fashion, dressing in elven raiment is an act of magic. It is an announcement of one’s true nature, one’s connection to Elfin and our kindred elves, and every time one does so it radiates a bit of Elfin into the world.

In many ways, it is not unlike dressing up for Halloween in a fashion that one loves but which would not be deemed appropriate the rest of the year. So many elfin go to faerie faires, ren faires and other gatherings and put on their elven raiment for those events that simply would be socially unacceptable for work or even for just walking around in the world. We love being elves, but most of us are not daring enough as yet, to prance or glide about presenting our true s’elves on a constant basis and the simple fact is that we might lose our jobs if we did so or just face unwanted hostility from miscellaneous folks in the world who believe it is their duty to be the fashion police and keep everyone in line. And in some areas, where the orcs, goblins and grimlins abide, to beat them in line.

Some folk, perhaps many elfae folk, are simply not ready to fully accept their elven nature and thus they dress up and pretend to be what they really are, or pretend to pretend, and approach the borders of Living Elfin as close as they may but they dare not step over into that realm where they’d say, “Yes, I am an elf (or faerie or pixie or whatever),” for fear of others reactions. They still hunger for social approval and acceptance and until they value freedom and mastery of their own responses in the world over the opinions of others, they will never quite pass the threshold (the forest’s edge) into Elfin. But whenever we wander among them, we do our best to nurture them and they have our love and sympathy for their predicament.

We who have fully embraced our elven nature, still must often move with caution through the world at times. Sometimes camouflaging our s’elves and our natures, most times wearing raiment that is suggestive of the elven but isn’t quite smacking it in their faces the way pixies often do.

So why are so many elves into fashion? Because we love being fair. We love being the fair folk, the faire folk, the faerie folk and it is our way of saying to those who are open to it, we are elves. Most can’t see it. In fact, most refuse to see the truth. They see what they wish to see ever limited by their stereotypes and preconceptions, but for those who are ready, something stirs in them and they feel the Call of Elfin, just as we did and think, I may just step a bit closer. And we ever await them.

Kyela (Love),
Tae Arvyn Eldali (pronounced tay — air – vin — L – dah – lie, The Silver Elves)
http://silverelves.angelfire.com

We welcome you to come join us on Facebook under Michael J. Love (Zardoa of The SilverElves) and Martha Char Love (SilverFlame of The Silver Elves).

We invite you to visit our Author page on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/The-Silver-Elves/e/B0070R8ER2/ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_3?qid=1490695829&sr=8-3 

Also, come to our website and enjoy reading samples of all our 41 books on magic and enchantment and the elven way at: http://silverelves.angelfire.com/HAelfbooks.html

blogspotBannerElf7

What sort of elf, faerie or other are you? Who are your people, your tribe?
For years various kindred have asked us, the Silver Elves, to help them figure this out. Now we’ve created a questionnaire to help us do so and also to help you learn more about your tribe! This is our gift to you. Simply follow the link & the directions.
http://silverelves.angelfire.com/HAelfkin.html

If you enjoyed this blog article about elven fashion and lifestyle, you will surely also enjoy reading our book Eldafaryn: True Tales of Magic from the Lives of the Silver Elves. Eldafaryn (Elf Haven) contains a series of vignettes from the lives of the Silver Elves describing our lives, our magic, our philosophy, and our unique view of the world.
eldafarynweb copy
Eldafaryn: True Tales of Magic from the Lives of the Silver Elves


Some of Our Other favorite Arvyndase salutations:

Ver Aleli Vasadas (In dreams awakening),

Ver nesidas mellun vari te (In shimmering starlight ever be),

Eli Feln Le (We love you),

Fost Tae Lodver (Touch the truth),

Keldas Zet Ton Na Tarsalunin Sol (Running wild on
a moonlit night),

Fardas Lovur Tae Lan (Dancing toward the dawn),

SilverElves_MagicTalks-elfstar

We invite you to come join us on Facebook in some of our Elven groups where you will find our elven-faerie-fae community interacting and sharing the Elven Way:

The Magical Books of the Silver Elves https://www.facebook.com/groups/539205916250397 where we have discussions about our books as well as about Elven and Otherkin philosophy and lifestyle.

Elf Witches of the Mystic Moon https://www.facebook.com/groups/806583242768352

Elven Life and Magic https://www.facebook.com/groups/629491797123886

Elvish Magical Chat https://www.facebook.com/groups/307775362744491

The Faerie Circle https://www.facebook.com/groups/1025483294180077

The Elven Way and Friendshttps://www.facebook.com/groups/165938637423212 

United Otherkin Alliance https://www.facebook.com/groups/328253710566869where elves, faeries, dragons, kitsune, gnomes, hobbits, merkin, pixies, brownies, nymphs, driads, niaids, valkyrie, vampires, devas, and all manner of Faerie Folk gather!

 

Silverelves_book_website
Link to The Silver Elves website: http://silverelves.angelfire.com

 

Blessings3 copy

 

Save

Save

Save

Save


%d bloggers like this: